A must read article by William M. Struthers, Ph.D:Affects of Porn on the Male Brain
This article was forwarded to me by a relative and I actually started to tear while reading it. People get so enslaved to pornography without realizing how destructive it is to the formation and keeping of an intimate relationship between husband and wife; what kind of programming happens to wire the brain in ways that enslave it; and how clueless we can be as parents when we don’t filter through what our young children, our sons, have access to.
The author said that we live in a “pornified” society. It’s so true. But as parents, we are the guardians of our homes. What we allow our children to watch and view is still within our control, especially while they are young. And teaching them about godliness and purity is an absolute must. Children as young as 12 years old are having sex. That’s two years away from Elijah’s age! Wow. I am so glad he is homeschooled. But homeschooling doesn’t guarantee that he won’t encounter pornography or elicit images that can trigger an appetite in him. Vigilance, prayer, and discipleship are key. Preventive. Protective. Positive.
As parents, we too, need to guard our hearts and minds. We can say, I don’t look at porn but still watch shows that stimulate unhealthy sexual desires and fantasies. We can say, I don’t look at porn, but still develop an appetite for worldly values and perceptions when we do not consider whom we call close friends and the activities we participate in with them.
I was blessed by a verse that Edric shared with me. “I will set no worthless thing before my eyes…” (Psalm 101:3)
It seems like an impossible statement given that everywhere you go and look, you are bound to see something that at least alludes to sex. But, I believe that what God calls us to be — be holy for I am holy — isn’t without his enabling power. We can still go against the tidal wave of immorality that is destroying our society.
My prayer is that our home will be a sanctuary for our children, where they can stay innocent, pure, and unstained…where God will prepare their hearts to be devoted to him, unshackled by sins that render them ineffective for His great work, convicted to pursue holiness that they might see and experience God, and live the gospel with power.
“Blessed are the pure of heart, for they shall see God.” (Matthew 5:8)
Wow, that article was long but so worth the read. I agree with you. It is sad and scary to live in the era we are in now. And unless we, parents, are not careful to monitor our children, they will definitely fall into this trap. Because God’s original design of sex have been twisted by the enemy, many are deceived. And most of the time, those who have addiction to it eventually commit sexual acts that devalue another person.
I’m quite bothered as a mom also since God has been making me aware about child molestation through documentaries and other people’s testimonies. My husband and I just watched “The Perks of a Wallflower” and we were disturbed how being molested as a child by someone close to them is not unusual. And this is just one of the many consequences of being enslaved by pornography. So now, even if you don’t want to think of your family and relatives differently, unless they are also committed followers of Jesus Christ you can’t help but be more protective of your children.
Hay. I thank God because He is Elohim Shomri (God is my Protector). And we can trust in Him to protect our little ones.
Hi Joy, you know I’m grateful to Achi Betty for this. She shared with me information about the interview with Ted Bundy. Before then, I had been conditioned to think that pornography is ok. I used to think pornography was just something people used to spice up their marriage. There was one reader’s comment that really struck home with me. It said something like where else in the world can you find blatant prostitution and yet people have been deceived to believe it’s art/just filming. I realized how true! No actress would take off their clothes or be in intimate scenes with a fellow actor they barely know, if they weren’t being paid for it. Even the biggest highest paid stars. They expose themselves or kiss co-actors, because they’re being paid. It’s not art at all. It’s prostitution.
I used to find OA those people who turn their eyes away or cover their eyes like children when they see porn. Now, I’m one of them. I don’t like to look at naked men the same way I now find it wrong should my husband look at naked women (on tv). I see it as being faithful to my vows to my husband and I feel only the man I married and love deserves to be seen by me. And I find it strange that people would object to their spouses seeing naked people in real life but ok to seeing them on tv.
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