If there is a tech-lover and computer savant in our family, it is Elijah, our eldest. At eleven years old he understands programming and code, thanks to Khan Academy. When I am stumped by a gadget issue, I holler for him and he ably rescues me from my ignorance. He also enjoys
reading about the newest gadgets available.
Edric and I hold him back a lot. He doesn’t have his own cell phone, iPad or even a computer or laptop. When necessary, he resorts to borrowing my laptop or iPad.
However, this past year, Elijah earned more than enough money from stocks investments and speaking engagements to pay for his own IPad. So Edric thought it was time he be allowed to get one to use for his “work”. The plan was they would look for one during our vacation in the U.S. Of course, Elijah was thrilled.
A few days after we arrived, he did his research, checking online for the best deals and accompanying Edric to gadget shops. Elijah found a refurbished IPad on Apple’s online store and Edric thought it was a steal, so they decided to buy it. However, someone else beat them to it because they waited a day.
Elijah was disheartened. He had invested time looking for the deal and even chatted with the customer service personnel to clarify certain questions about shipping. We reminded him to keep praying. If it was God’s will, he would find something better. So he quickly snapped out of it and moved on.
Yesterday, he found another superb deal on EBay for an iPad Air First Generation that was close to 350 USD with shipping. He was so excited about it but another interested party outbid him! Once again he was crushed, but we reiterated that he should not lose heart but trust in God’s will.
I was so blessed by his attitude as he took to the defeat positively and processed the disappointment from a spiritual perspective. Of course I was hoping that God would reward him but I kept this to myself.
In the meantime, Edric and I went out with Catalina to shop at Bed, Bath & Beyond. During our trip away, we received a call from Elijah. He was happy to announce that he had come across an IPad Air 2 (16 GgB) for 420 USD with shipping, tax free. (It normally retails at Apple Store for 499 USD without tax.) Strangely, no one bid during the window when he gave his offer. After an hour and a half, the deal became his! My sister told me this was uncommon on EBay. But the seller checked out and the offer was guaranteed by EBay, so Edric and Elijah followed through with the purchase.
Elijah was practically jumping up and down with excitement. Apparently, he wanted the IPad Air 2 but he didn’t condition himself to expect it because it was costlier. So he had set his sights on a simpler model with acceptable specs. This new option was absolutely fantastic as it appealed to the “techiness” in him.
Elijah was going to pay the full amount but Edric said they would split. Still, Elijah asked to pay 75% instead of just 50%. I was so proud of him! This was an occasion for Elijah to “step up” as a young man.
I know his initial disappointment wasn’t easy. But God blocked those two previous selections to get him the best IPad, the one that he secretly dreamed to have.
Interestingly, the night before I attended a bible study led by my brother in law, Jeff, and he focused on James 5. In the chapter there was a portion that I highlighted again and it happened to be about the prophet Elijah!
“…The effective prayer of a righteous man can accomplish much. Elijah was a man with a nature like ours, and he prayed earnestly that it would not rain, and it did not rain on the earth for three years and six months. Then he prayed again, and the sky poured rain and the earth produced its fruit.” (James 5:16-18 NASB)
When my son, Elijah, was dealing with the unfavorable non-purchase, I shared with him the same line: the “prayer of the righteous man accomplishes much,” encouraging him to keep on presenting his longing to the Lord. I knew that Elijah loved God and honored him in his life so if the Lord willed for him to get an iPad deal, he would make it happen. And true enough, God answered Elijah’s prayer in his perfect way and time, even if he had to stomach the disappointment first.
When I asked him what his prayer was, he told me, “Lord, if it is your will, I know you will give it to me. If not, I will feel sad but I know it will be your will, so that’s what is best.”
As a mom, it’s hard for me to see my kids disappointed. It’s also a struggle for me to watch them go through the waiting process. Yet God uses instances like this one to demonstrate his personal involvement in the character development of my kids. Elijah got to experience first-hand what it is like to surrender a desire to the Lord and then receive the reward of his trust and patience.
11 thoughts on “Surrender And Wait”
Thanks Joy for sharing your story about Elijah’s dealing with disappointments. I can also share this article with my eldest son who is now in this process also. God bless you & your family!
Hi Joy. This is very inspiring. I pray that I will be able to raise my son in the same way you have raised yours – whose center and perfect peace is Christ. It is easy to make quick solutions but waiting on the Lord really produces the best results. Amazing!
Hi Joy, I pray that you won’t grow weary sharing your stories about how God works in your life.
I’m just amazed how your article has ministered to me again. This was not the first time. Thank you.
Wow… I really don’t know how to teach my daughter to be as prayerful like your son. Thank you for this wonderful story. It inspires me a lot. Thank you for sharing your life with us. God Bless you.
I have been following your blog for a few months already. Thanks for sharing this article. My husband and I have been patiently waiting for a baby. We’ve been married for almost two years and we’ve been undergoing fertility treatment already. There are days when I feel sad and disheartened. Impatient even. We may not understand God’s ways, but we know that his timing is perfect. So until we receive our blessing, every day is always an opportunity to pray for more patience, to seek his will and to thank him for his other blessings.
even your kids are so inspiring joy! i’ve talked to elijah once or twice (during the breaks when you have talks) and even during the short durations his maturity and the presence of holy spirit in him, communicate through.
Hello, your blog is really inspiring to a struggling Christian wife and mom like me. I’m still in the process in learning to surrender and wait for God’s perfect timing. It is a hard process for a person who likes control. Reading your son’s story is a blessing to me, because I am reminded that I need to have a child-like heart in praying and wanting God’s will in my life. It is my wish also to model this kind of heart to my children. Everyday I am praying that my heart and mind will align to God’s will. God bless your family for inspiring people like me. I still don’t know how I can introduce God to my toddlers..
The article is very timing to what I’m going through. The attitude of expectancy and acceptance is truly admirable from your son Elijah.
Thank God for His loving grace everyday, every minute and every second. Your family is an instrument also to display God’s wonderful love, grace and mercy.
God bless you always.
My son is almost 11 and is also into computer programming.
Here’s another website for coding. better than khan academy. – http://www.codecademy.com . It’s free!
hi.. i started following ur blog just ryt after we attended annual conference..i was inspired to your eldest elijah..hes so adorable and the rest of ur kids..edric mentioned,elijah will attend the stock training..i would love to hear the details.. ive shared it to my 9 yrs old daughter and shes curious and love to attend too..thank you and God bless..
Hi Lai! You can check out COL financial’s site and book a schedule for their seminar:)